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Issue 00470 |
May 26 - June 1, 2007 |
issn 0856 - 9135 |
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Parenthood |
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Little words with transforming
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by Rev. Andrew Gama The ability to listen well means that we are not only attentive to the words but we are perceptive in our listening to hear the meaning behind those words. Parents who listen to their children from the earliest years and on through adolescence will always have a good relationship with them. Listening conveys the attitude of acceptance and respect. It says to the other person you are a worthwhile person and I read you loud and clear. I know of nothing as healing to a marriage as the words, forgive me, I was wrong, I am sorry and pardon me. Happily married people are never too pride conscious to use these words. These little words have transforming power. Forgiving someone is a basic ethic of the truly Christian person. The rhythm of normal family life is alienation and reconciliation, forgiveness, acted out daily, makes possible the climate of comfort and intimacy. Forgiveness is the daily bread of married life together. Forgiveness is always cast in the mood of intimacy, it is the product of warm, personal, and realistic encounter. In this there are no minimums. Marriages that are supportive and intimate must be sustained by the potential each partner has for continued development. Success is never a final thing. There is never a sense of finality to marital adjustments because human personality is never static. As you read, learn, acquire new friends and assume more responsibilities in life, you keep changing. We are never the same person from day to day, week to week. As people are always developing, so marriages must constantly be in process of adjustment and change. You may be able to communicate intimacy and in great depth on your honeymoon. How can you plan for intimacy and communication, in even greater depth, five, ten and twenty years after your wedding day? In a real sense your happiness in marriage will always be up to you. On your wedding day you vowed to accept very real responsibility to love, honour and cherish, and in doing this you must also realize that your own continued growth and development do most to sustain that vow throughout all of married life.
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